Sex in the Big Easy: Keeping Your Submissive Collared
August 1st 2019
Published by Michael David Raso, Contributing Writer
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Why Would Someone Want To Be Collared?
I spoke to Dr. Tracy Carlson, from her private practice as part of Connections Psychotherapy and Wellness (myconnectionwellness.com) in Kenner. “I am a licensed psychologist, and I’m certified as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. So, part of my training is that I have to have knowledge of a number of aspects of sexual health and pleasure, and part of that includes an understanding of diversities and sexual expression and different lifestyles, so that includes, but not necessarily limited to polyamory, BDSM, and that sort of area. So, with my background in training, I did a two-year fellowship at the University of Minnesota’s program in sexuality, and that’s where I received a lot of my post-doctoral education and clinical experience.”
Dr. Carlson treats everyone from individuals to providing therapy for couples including group therapy. Of BDSM, Dr. Carlson says, “Thinking about within the BDSM practice… there are several reasons individuals would engage in collars, and leashes for that matter. So, it can a sensation of having something around the neck, it can be a form of breath play, or a source of restraint as well. So, collars, when you think about it is a symbol of repression, when you think about it, right? So, they’re often used as a way to represent a consensual power exchange. So, some people might use a collar to help them to help get into different experiences, different personas.
“So, for example, a dom might ‘take on’ a ‘sir’ or a ‘master’ persona. Or a sub might take on, a submissive or slave personae when using a collar.
“…But another thing to think about is the reciprocal exchange of that, so that someone who wears a collar might not only be experiencing their own pleasure, of having the collar, and what that role means to them, but they might also experience pleasure by viewing their play with reaction to them wearing the collar as well.”
When wearing a collar some people enter subspace, which can control everything from what they eat to how they sleep, to who they can and cannot sleep with, she says, “Giving that consensual power to the other person. With the dom getting into that headspace, of being confident, of having control, over the other person.”
Courtesy Big Easy Magazine
